"Loss" The Fear Of This Word

Yesterday I attended a workshop about what we do & what we shouldn't do during the funeral ceremony.
From this workshop, I learn a really good lesson on one word.

"Loss"

So I take this opportunity to share what I have learned & inspired yesterday


When we are young, we learn a lot of things from our parents, teachers, friends & many more. What I notice is everything we learn is how we can get or achieve something from our life but we never learn how if we lose something in our life. In-home, my mom asks me to study hard so I can get a good job after graduate & when I in school teacher teach how score my exam so I can get my certificate, But never have a place to learn how if I lost something, how do I handle the situation or what should I do after I losing something. As a human being, we all fear about many things in ours life. We will fear about the thing that we do not know or we do not understand.

The word 'Loss' is something that we all very fear for.

We all fear of losing our job, losing our money, losing our girlfriend or boyfriend & many more. Because will not know what will happen after we lose it. Sometimes the thing you lost can be replaced it from the time being but what about  your loss something that you can't replace it forever. Someone you loved for, your parent, your spouse or your best friend. We all fear for this happening.

We have to control our fear or conquer our fear for this word but how we can do it?We have to study this word and understand it to conquer our fear for this word.
Many Gurus said " Nothing in life is to be feared but to be understood "
After you understand the word 'Loss', you will start to face it  or accept it because what happen already been happening. I know, if we lose something we will be feeling sad or grief but we also need to face it to continue our journey. If we keep avoiding the thing we fear the thing will become more worst and worst.
I'm not a professional to teach people how to face the fear or to understand a word 'Loss' but I here to share what I feel for this word. Everyone are fear of loss but what is the loss that you fear most? Maybe you thinking is life. You all fear to lose your life, am I correct? Let me tell you what really fear for all the people I met when they are facing death. they never fear of death when they know it will happen but they fear of many things that you all miss looking out. They fear that they can't take care their loved ones, their fear that after they death what will happen to his/her children or elders who still living (who gonna take care of them when I gone), they fear a lot of things that after the death.
Like my father, when I was young my father & mother was divorce. I follow my mother to KL and my father & older brother stay at Batu Pahat, Johor. We lost contact till my father have a fourth stage lung cancer and the doctor said he can't last for 2 months. My father only wish is to find back my mother & me before he passed away. My elder brother came to KL search for me & my mother so we can go back to see our father for the last time. After my brother found us, we all go back to Batu Pahat to visit my father. My father was not fear for the death, my father just fear that he has no much time to stay with us because we lose contact for 14 years. So he wishes that can gain more & more time with us but after all he passed away after a week later. What I realise is when the time really comes, what you think about is the life not death.

So you all can try this word 'Loss' or other words that you fear. Try to face it, conquer it with understanding the meaning of the word you fear.